Trust is valuable. It affects everything. Being trusted by others is one of the things you must have to go far in life and to achieve your greatest success.
Before starting my own company, I worked in the security and investigations industry for 20 years, and I learned that trust isn’t a quick thing you can gain. It is something earned over a period of time, after consistently being honest, always acting with integrity, never lying or misleading. It is how you act. It is who you are.
If you want to be a person other people trust, take a look at your actions, the decisions you make on a daily basis.
Here are 9 traits of trustworthy people. Do you have them? Can people trust you?
1. They are authentic.
People want to be around others that are real, meaning they are authentic and have high character. Authentic people are not trying to be above anyone else. They are likeable, humble and easy to talk to.
2. They are consistent.
Everyone has a bad day. But people want to see consistent, positive behavior in the people they trust. Affirmative actions and smart decisions make a difference in the eyes of others.
3. They have integrity.
People want other people around them that stand up for what is right in life, even when no one is watching.
4. They are compassionate.
Trustworthy people put themselves in other people’s shoes. They are always thinking of others, feeling for others—it’s not all about them.
5. They are kind.
People build up trust when they look out for others, when they are there for them when they need someone most, not just when everything is going OK.
6. They are resourceful.
Trusted people are always learning and growing. They are constant students. They always know there is room to get better, and because of that, they know ways to help inspire and support others—and they give and share those resources.
7. They are connectors.
They look for ways to align like-minded people, and they connect people who have the knowledge or experience to help them get what they want.
8. They are humble.
Trustworthy people want to get others out there first, before themselves. They realize that the efforts of the team really make things happen, versus what they can individually accomplish.
9. They are available.
They are there for people, available to others to support them always. They go out of their way to make time for others.
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Cynthia Bazin is a 2015 SUCCESS BlogStars winner, nominated and voted upon as one of the most influential self-development writers and bloggers on the web.
If you are using the video, ask the first question before viewing.
1. What would you do if a friend of yours gave you an expensive present, but you found out it was stolen?
Questions to ask after showing Act I
2. Summarize what happened in act one.
3. Why did Muggsy want to give Groark such an expensive present?
4. Was it okay for Muggsy to steal the present if he didn't have enough money to pay for it? Why, or why not?
5. Is it okay for Groark to keep the present if he is not the one who stole it? Why, or why not?
6. When Groark found out it was stolen, how did he feel about it?
7. Groark seems to be confused. What is he confused about?
8. What do you think Groark is going do? What do you think he should do?
Questions to ask after showing Act II
9. What was "the really big important question" that Socrates asked Groark? (see next question)
10. Socrates asks, "if a thing as been stolen, who does it belong to?" Does the gift belong to Muggsy who took it? To Groark who received it? Who does it belong to? Is there anything wrong with accepting a gift if you know it was stolen?
11. Socrates tells Groark , "just do what's right." What do you think is the right thing to do? Is it always easy to do what's right?
12. Groark says that giving back the gift will be hard. Why? What is he concerned about? (Muggsy's feelings)
13. Diotima tells Groark that he will be doing Muggsy a favor by telling him how he really feels about the stolen gift. How would that be a favor? How do you think it will make Muggsy feel?
14. Diotima tells Groark that all good friendships are based on what?(honesty and trust) Do you think that's true? Why, or why not?
15. Imagine that you are Groark. How could you tell Muggsy you don't want the gift without hurting his feelings?
16. What did Groark learn from Socrates? From Diotima?
Questions to ask after showing Act III
17. How do you feel about the way Groark handled things with Muggsy? Why? What could he have done better?
18. Did Groark harm his friendship with Muggsy by telling him the truth? Did he make it better? How?
19. Why didn't Groark want Muggsy to lie to the store owner about how he got the space station? (That would make him a liar.)
20. What is wrong with lying? Do you trust people who lie? Do you care if your friends lie?
21. What kind of friend did Groark tell Muggsy he wants him to be? (A friend he can trust.)
22. How do you think Groark felt about himself at the end of the video? Was he still confused? What did he learn from the experience?
General Questions about Trustworthiness
23. How do you feel when someone tells you a lie?
24. Do you think that lying can ruin a friendship? Explain. Has that ever happened to you?
25. If you tell just one lie, does that make you a liar? How many lies do you get to tell before you are a liar?
26. Would you trust somebody who lies? Who cheats? Who steals? Why, or why not?
27. How do you know if you can trust someone?
28. Do you consider yourself to be an honest person? Why?
29. What does trustworthiness mean to you? What is a trustworthy person?
30. Do you consider yourself a trustworthy person? In what way are you a trustworthy person?
31. Do your parents trust you? What could you do that would make your parents stop trusting you? What would be bad about that?
32. Its been said that cheating is just another form of lying. Do you agree?
33. Describe a time when you lied, cheated, or stole something. What happened? How did you feel? What were the consequences?
34. How can simply being honest make life a lot easier. Have you ever experienced this in your own life?
35. How important is trust in your relationships with friends and family? How would these relationships be affected if you found out someone was lying to you?
36. What does trust have to do with honesty?